Hello Mommas!
If you’re over 30, raising kids, and feeling like your tank is running low, you’re in good company. Burnout is hitting American moms hard, especially those of us balancing parenting, work, and that endless mental to-do list. Let’s talk about what’s going on, why it’s happening, and how self-care—tailored to you—can help. This is a judgement free zone and I am here to help you.
Burnout is Real for Moms
Imagine this: it’s 8 p.m., the kids are finally asleep (after two snacks, a glass of water, a bedtime story, AND a lost stuffed animal. The dishes are piled in the sink. Your inbox is buzzing. Sound familiar? A 2020 survey by Great Place to Work and Maven found that 9.8 million working moms in the U.S. were grappling with workplace burnout, with moms 28% more likely to feel it than dads. Fast-forward to 2025, and the juggle hasn’t gotten easier—hybrid work, school schedules, and that “always-on” vibe are still taking a toll.
Why are we so wiped out? Moms often carry the bulk of childcare and household duties. A 2021 study from the Pew Research Center showed that 60% of mothers in the U.S. handle most of the parenting tasks, even when both parents work full-time. Add in the pressure to keep up at work—where you might feel like you’re proving your worth post-motherhood—and it’s a recipe for exhaustion. Oh, and let’s not forget society’s expectations: a clean house, thriving kids, a stellar career, daily exercise, gentle parenting and maybe a Pinterest-worthy dinner. No biggie, right?
What’s Hitting Moms Over 30 Hardest?
If you’re in your 30s or 40s, you’re likely in the thick of it. Maybe you’re chasing toddlers, driving mommy Uber to activities, or navigating the teen years. You’re exhausted, your marriage may be suffering there’s no alone time for you, much less time to keep your marriage alive and go on dates.
Or perhaps you’re a single mom, holding it all together solo—a 2022 Census Bureau report noted that 80% of single-parent households in the U.S. are led by moms, who often face higher stress and fewer resources. Then there’s the mental load: remembering school picture day, scheduling doctor visits, and keeping track of who needs new sneakers. It’s like running a small corporation, unpaid.
The workplace doesn’t always make it easier. A 2023 McKinsey report found that 57% of moms with young kids feel their careers are stalled due to childcare demands. Many moms feel passed over for promotions after cutting back hours to manage parenting. What if you are in a career that encourages continuing education. How do you have time for that? That kind of pressure can make you feel like you’re never doing enough, no matter how hard you try.
Self-Care: More Than Just a Buzzword, It’s A True Necessity.
Self-care isn’t about spa days or trendy smoothies (though we love those too). It’s about finding small, realistic ways to recharge so you can keep being the amazing mom you are. Burnout isn’t all on you—workplace policies and childcare gaps play a huge role—but while we push for systemic fixes, self-care can be your lifeline.
That’s where our I can help. I don’t do one size fits all because self care looks different for everyone. I have done a lot of legwork so you do not have to. You can work alone with some guides that I have created or with me and I can create something that will feel good to YOU and fit into your life. I am here for YOU. To help you put YOU back into your day.
Simple Ways to Ease the Burnout
Here are a few doable ideas to slip self-care into your day:
Focus on One Thing: Research from the American Psychological Association shows multitasking amps up stress. Try savoring your tea without checking emails or playing with your kids without your phone. It’s tough but rewarding for everyone involved.
Share the Load: Asking for help isn’t easy, but delegating one chore to your partner or saying no to an extra work task can free up mental space. I am working on a boundary setting workbook to help you with this!
Connect with Other Moms: Burnout can feel isolating, but talking to moms who get it can lift you up. My self-care private online community is where you can share and support each other.
Sneak in Micro-Moments: Even five minutes of deep breathing or jotting down something you’re grateful for can shift your mindset. My self-care guides include tools to make these moments easy.
You’re Already Doing So Much
Here’s the truth: you’re carrying a lot, and burnout doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means the system—work, childcare, all of it—needs to catch up to you. That 2023 McKinsey stat about 57% of moms feeling held back? That’s not your fault. But while we advocate for better support, like flexible work hours or affordable childcare, self-care can help you reclaim some joy.
I am all about meeting you where you are. Whether it’s a planner to tame the chaos or a soothing candle to light during a rare quiet moment, I’m here to help you feel like you again. Because you’re not just a mom—you’re a person who deserves to feel good.
So, what’s one thing you do to beat burnout? Share it in the comments, and let’s swap ideas. You’re not in this alone, and we’re cheering you on.
Sources: Great Place to Work and Maven (2020), Pew Research Center (2021), U.S. Census Bureau (2022), McKinsey (2023).
